Valentine’s day is right around the corner. The radio stations are blowing up with ads telling you what you should get your girl this year. Chocolates. Strawberries. Flowers. A diamond necklace. And we’re just getting started here. So, if you’re like a lot of guys, you’re probably thinking to yourself, “This could get expensive!” And you’re right. It could.
But what if there was a gift you could give your lady that wouldn’t break the bank? What if you could give her something that she’d value far more than candy or jewelry?
Here’s the best gift you can give your girl this Valentine’s Day.
What Women Really Want
John and Julie Gottman, in their book The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the “Love Lab” About What Women Really Want, say that women don’t really want a man with a six-figure income or six pack abs. (Although, if we’re being honest, that’s probably not going to hurt!)
But what women want more than anything from their men is trustworthiness. Women want men they can trust.
It’s amazing. These two spent a lot of time and a lot of money discovering a truth the Bible has proclaimed all along.
The Bible says,
What is desirable in a man is his fidelity; better to be a poor man than a liar (Proverbs 19:22).
Your trustworthiness is the most desirable quality you can ever cultivate in your life. It’s better than being rich or famous or even attractive. It trumps them all. And it just so happens to be the number one thing your woman wants from you.
So what does that look like?
#1 Be A One Woman Man
Are you a one woman man? Do you find your joy and satisfaction in your wife alone? Or are you surfing the internet for pornography? Do you friend old flames on Facebook? Do you have direct message conversations with people you have no business being in a private conversation with?
Are you a one woman man?
Nothing will destroy a marriage or a relationship faster than infidelity.
Your girl deserves your trust. And it’s the one thing she wants from you more than anything.
#2 Be A Dependable Person
Trust is about more than staying true to your relationship.
Are you a dependable person?
Can your girl count on you or is she always wondering if you’re going to come through? Do you do what you say you’re going to do or do you have a long list of broken promises? Do you show up when you say you’re going to show up? Are you reliable? Are you accountable?
We can’t just claim to be trustworthy. We have to demonstrate our trustworthiness.
If you were to look back on the last month of your relationship, have you kept your word? Have you been present? Have you given your lady any reason to doubt your dependability?
You’re girl wants someone she can count on. And she deserves it too.
#3 Show Common Courtesy
The dictionary defines courtesy as “excellence of manners or social conduct; polite behavior.”
One way you can prove your trustworthiness is by showing your girl common courtesy.
Open her door. Pull out her chair. Walk closest to the curb. Give her your jacket when she gets cold. Look her in the eye during your conversations. Be punctual. Pay attention to the small details. Surprise her. Pick up the check.
Basically…be a gentleman.
#4 Own Your Mistakes
Look. You’re not perfect. You get that. I get that. Your girl gets that. But that doesn’t give you a pass when you make a mistake. It doesn’t let you off the hook when you mess things up.
If you want to be a trustworthy guy, then you have to learn to own your mistakes.
Anytime you mess things up, anytime you let your girl down, there is a break in the relationship. And it has to be mended.
And the only way to mend it is to own it.
You have to be willing to humble yourself, admit your wrong, and ask for forgiveness.
The importance of this cannot be overstated. So many men fail to own their mistakes. Rather than admitting they’re wrong, they ignore the problem. And then they wait it out, hoping that if they wait long enough they can pretend nothing ever happened.
But that never helped anybody.
If you want to be a trustworthy guy, you have to own your mistakes. And that means you have to get comfortable swallowing your pride every now and then.
But if you learn to do that, your girl will respect you for it. And it will mean the world to her.
The Best Valentine’s Day Gift
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. What are you getting your girl?
This post isn’t meant to give you an out on picking up a gift. In fact, that will probably work against building your trust. She might think you’re trying to pull something on her.
But maybe in addition to the flowers or the strawberries you try and be a little more trustworthy. I think it will be icing on the cake.
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